The Modern Woman

In our quest to create a more egalitarian society, a renaissance of what women’s role in society has been flourishing since the turn of the 20th century. No longer as inhibited by the trials of female biology, women have been pushing farther and farther into what were traditionally male dominated spheres of life and creating a series of role models for young women to look up to as their opportunities expand across many facets of society. These hyper-capable women are generally admired for their skills and rewarded with the praise and adulation of their achievements as a the trailblazers they are.

That said, in their wake are untold masses of women of all ages who are being alienated for not living up to the expectations western society is unfairly placing on them. They are hounded from when they are young girls and all throughout their lives that they “can be anything they want,” but ironically, that phrase comes with a hidden caveat. In it, is the implication that being a traditional wife, mother, and homemaker is beneath their station and represents a compromise in her ultimate potential. If a young woman aspires to a career in STEM, she is lauded as champion of women’s achievement. If she makes a conscious choice avoid such large commitments and instead chooses to have a family, society tends to view that unfavorably.

The result of this is a lot of unhappy people. The super women who dominate their careers usually have trouble finding men that actually are compatible with their lifestyle and goals. The bulk of the men who match their requirements for a mate are fewer, and of those, many don’t want successful women challenging their ego, and prioritizing their work and responsibilities over their relationships. Compromise is possible, but for men who have everything else, why would they?

Then, their are the women who try to achieve success, but fall short might go through life feeling like they were victims of unforeseen circumstances, or even obstacles real or imagined that hindered their advancement. If they fail to find a spouse, and or don’t have much success building a family, their is a good chance they will be further alienated from the life they might have enjoyed with only a collection of cats to keep them company. They will look to fulfill their lives in other ways while blaming the negative aspects of their existence on external factors, and few actually account for their own “empowerment” as the driving force behind their unhappiness.

Lastly, their are the women who didn’t have the emotional fortitude and willpower to actually “choose” to have a family and end up having children prematurely. Usually, they get thrown into a set of circumstances that typically, though not always, produces bad outcomes for everyone involved. Often times, their dreams get put on hold to make way for a new set of responsibilities they are seldom ready for. Add to that, an unreliable partner, mounting bills, and dependency on the state to further complicate an already difficult road ahead and one can see how tragic this pattern becomes.

Then there is the men. Because these women were out of the dating pool, or severely hampered by their career and or kids, they too are hurt by this system. They will have to live with the prospect of either helping to raise someone else’s children, which can be difficult, or share in other responsibilities to make way for her career. This isn’t always bad, but statistically, it means their are less opportunities for men and women to meet and form successful relationships. Not to mention, with more women in the workforce, the wages of everyone involved gets diluted (goes down) due to simple economics. That in turn, makes it more difficult to support a family in a single income household.